>> Right now folks can opt out of the bonded kiss verb by emoting it -- does anyone do this, why or why not?

For the verbs that have it, I did.

Many do not, though, or are annoying to use (the wink behind me thing for example). LEAN, WAVE, HOLD/JOIN etc... are all rather irritating, but unavoidable unless you simply choose not to use the verb. :\

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Rev. Reene

You accept Syralon's offer and are now holding some holy oil.

Syralon says to you, "May the oil make you shiny and full of religion."

<<Right now folks can opt out of the bonded kiss verb by emoting it -- does anyone do this, why or why not?>>

I am a tad late to this discussion, but:

I almost always use a regular KISS emote as I hate the bonded-kiss room-messaging like burning.

I really, really want an option to non-bonded-ly LEAN on a spouse. The bonded lean is by far my least favorite enforced-emote of the bonded verbs, since the way my bonded character uses lean makes the "tender smile" almost never appropriate. When I want her to particularly be affectionate, I use snuggle rather than lean, so the affectionate smiling add-on to lean is just an annoyance.

I also particularly hate HOLD, WAVE, and WINK for the ladies. Although my character regularly uses wink at <person> behind me, I often forget that wink <spouse> causes the eyelash batting. We already have an eyelash-batting verb, and I use THAT when I want her to bat her eyelashes.

I would prefer the current "bonded" messaging to NOT be the default messaging, and if this requires an addition like "wed" to the end of the command, then so be it.

Adding this 'wed' syntax onto the wedding verbs so we could pick and choose when to use them (and default to not) would, I think, rank pretty highly among 2007's best changes. :)